In my last post, The Silent Saboteur, I explored how unspoken expectations quietly undermine team performance and trust. But what happens when we do speak up — and things still don’t change? Sometimes, the problem isn’t that expectations are unspoken. It’s that...

One thing I keep running into in conversations with leaders and teams is the massive impact of unspoken expectations. No matter how many times I’ve touched on this subject, it’s worth reiterating because it’s one of the biggest factors behind dysfunctional...

Remember that old joke about the married couple? There one where, after years of marriage, the wife turns to her husband and asks why he never tells her he loves her. Shocked, he replies, “What do you mean? I told you I loved you the day we got married. I promise, if...

Sometimes leadership feels like planting seeds you may never see grow. You show up. You hold the space. You ask the hard questions. You model the behavior you hope to see. And then… nothing. No big “aha” moment. No visible change. Just silence or slow movement. It’s...

In a perfect world, we’d all get to hand-pick the people we work with. We’d build teams of people who think like us, work like us, communicate like us, and share our same work ethic and values. But in reality? Most of us find ourselves working alongside people we...

In leadership, it’s tempting to frame everything through logic and facts, especially when tensions rise or conflict surfaces. We want to fix problems, move quickly, and get results. But here’s the truth: emotions aren’t the enemy of progress — avoidance is. I’ve...

When someone on your team pushes back, challenges an idea, or doesn’t engage the way you expect, it’s easy to label that as resistance. But what if it isn’t resistance at all? What if what looks like laziness… is actually exhaustion? What if what seems like defiance…...

We’ve all been in the room when someone says, “We have a trust problem.” And sometimes, that’s true. But sometimes, it's not. One team I worked with kept circling back to trust as their core issue. But the real problem wasn’t actually trust. It was that they weren’t...

"I don’t know." Three little words we hear all the time — from our teams, from our kids, from ourselves. And too often, we treat it like a period. An endpoint. A dismissal. “Why did he do that?” “...I don’t know.” “I don’t know, it just seems…” “I don’t know why...

Have you ever felt like you're moving backward when you desperately want to move forward? Like your team is regressing instead of progressing? You're not alone.  But what if that tension, that backward motion, is exactly what you need to gain the power and precision...