In a recent conversation with a team I coach, we delved into the nuances of unintentional behavior, a topic I talked about a few weeks ago. But during this latest conversation, I was struck by a critical aspect we often overlook — the flip side of the coin. One one...

Leadership often feels like walking a tightrope. We strive to balance our intentions with the impact our actions have on those around us. Yet, there’s a layer to leadership that can be easily overlooked — unintentional behavior.  In my last post, I warned about the...

Lately, I’ve been reflecting a lot on unintentional behavior and how it shows up in our lives. You know, those moments when you say or do something, thinking you’re being completely harmless, only to realize later that it was received in a way you never intended.  A...

In his famous commencement speech, This Is Water, David Foster Wallace tells the story of two young fish swimming along when they encounter an older fish who says, "Morning, boys. How’s the water?" The young fish swim on for a bit before one turns to the other and...

In the world of leadership, dealing with power dynamics and tough conversations is an art. Recently, I faced a situation where a newly-promoted finance director, known for his bold style and authority over three statewide offices, found himself inadvertently slowing...

In the fast-paced world of emergency response, or even accounting for that matter, every decision counts. Recently, I had the privilege of diving into the intricate dynamics of a 911 agency, where tensions simmered between dispatchers and supervisors — a scenario ripe...

Imagine standing in front of a room full of FBI agents, tasked with training them on leadership.  That’s where I recently found myself, at a regional training day for the FBI. I was invited because of the work I’ve been doing with law enforcement.  It's a privilege...

Over the last few weeks, I’ve introduced you to some ideas about our subconscious that I’ve been mulling over for quite a while now (it’s an endlessly fascinating topic). First, I introduced you to the power of the subconscious, as well as the language of the...

The stories we tell ourselves matter. As leaders, we have to remember that every person we lead has a story they want to tell with their life. Many of us can’t seem to tell the story that we want because there are too many other factors and influences affecting the...

In my last two posts, I introduced you to the power of the subconscious, as well as the language of the subconscious (emotions and story).  We learned that the vast majority of the things driving our reactions and responses are coming from the stories and emotions of...